Life Story Links: February 16, 2021
“Memory nourishes the heart, and grief abates.”
—Marcel Proust
Vintage Valentine’s Day postcard with early 20th-century illustration
In Pictures
SCENES FROM A MARRIAGE
The experience of abundant togetherness during this pandemic for Mandy Patinkin and his wife, Kathryn Grody, “is a matter of public record, because scenes from their marriage—in all its talky, squabbly, emotional, affectionate glory—are all over social media, courtesy of their son Gideon, 34, who started recording them for fun.” What a delight!
SCENES FROM A BYGONE ERA
When boxes of photos of everyday life in the Shetland Islands were salvaged from the recycling heap and shared online, residents’ memories went into high gear. “Overnight, dozens of people were leaving messages and helping to identify the people featured, chiming in with notes on family homes and sharing memories of places they spent time as children.”
Lives Recorded, Lives Unrecorded
AND NOW, BLANK PAGES
“I often wish I could ask my father who he was at 23. I wish I could ask what his bad habits were, or how he treated his mother, or what he did on Saturdays. But his ability to recall his past has disappeared…” A daughter unearths her father’s journals from a time before Alzheimer’s stole his memories.
A GIFT FOR ALL
“At the time I thought I was doing this for my kids, and my grandkids… It would be ancient history on a personal, family level,” Randy McDaniel says of recording his father’s stories while he was in a nursing home. When his dad died years later, Randy realized, “Nope. I recorded it for myself.”
BROOKLYN SERVICEPEOPLE
World War II veterans buried at Green-Wood Cemetery in Brooklyn, NY, will soon be honored by a team of dedicated archivists to offer “a better story than what’s on the gravestone about who these people were and what they did.”
“MY FAMILY AND THE MOB”
“As the hurts are revealed, they offer unexpected insights that traverse generations. The life of the grandfather explains the life of the father, which explains the life of the son.” He knew his grandfather was a mob boss., but was that the whole story? A review of Russell Shorto’s Smalltime.
Pen to Paper
A CONUNDRUM, INDEED
“Not the first modern trans memoir, but perhaps the first with literary ambitions, Conundrum helped establish one way of thinking about what it means to be trans.” A thought-provoking piece about how one person’s story can become less relatable, even “obsolescent,” over time.
A FOOLPROOF WRITING PROMPT
Last week I wrote about the two-word writing prompt guaranteed to keep even the most blocked writer’s memories—and pen—flowing, which was introduced to me by one of my favorite memoirists.
Kinship and Connection
FIRESIDE CHAT
This conversation between Dave Isay, founder and president of StoryCorps, and Dr. Ira Byock, founder of Providence’s Institute for Human Caring, is now seven months old, but its message—how stories build human connections—is as relevant as ever.
UNLOCKING MEMORIES & EMOTIONS
“While we could have looked at photos together before the pandemic, we rarely did. Now, using ‘share screen,’ we gaze at the snapshots Dad took while he was working as a fishing guide on Yellowstone Lake, and as a relief doctor for the Havasupai people who live near the Grand Canyon. The photos release memories.” How Zoom has enabled one family to become closer during the pandemic.
LONG-DISTANCE EXCHANGE
“I get to have a 45-minute to an hour conversation with one of my oldest, closest friends every single week. Not just, ‘How’s life?’ or, ‘How’s your job?’ but real, actual subjects that mean something. Not many people can say that.” Behind the scenes at “The Bittersweet Life” podcast.
AN ARTFUL MEMORIAL
A quilt stands as a monument to a mother who looms large in the memory of her family: “It’s a way to preserve history and...to keep our mom’s memory alive and remember her after all these years.”
...and a Few More Links
“Secrets & Memory: A Workshop for Writers with Dani Shapiro & Albert Flynn DeSilver” on March 6
Smithsonian presents the Mother Tongue Film Festival, “The Healing Power of Storytelling”
Mike Nichols, intuitive storyteller
Read an excerpt from Gabriel Byrne’s new memoir, Walking with Ghosts.
Considering creating a commonplace book?
For one woman, prayer cards provide treasured connections.
Memory and technology: on how we retrieve images from the past
Short Takes
