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Life Story Links: June 28, 2022
Personal historian Dawn Roode curates a bi-weekly roundup of stories of interest to memory-keepers and memoirists. This week includes a rich array of pieces.
“To be courageous enough to look at the truth of our lives through our remembered experience is to be changed by it.”
—Padma Lakshmi
Vintage postcard, issued between 1898–1931, portraying a moonlit Palm Beach in Florida. Image courtesy of the The Miriam and Ira D. Wallach Division of Art, Prints, and Photographs: Photography Collection, The New York Public Library Digital Collections.
Honoring our fathers
“HE REMAINS UNSEEN”
“My father represents the salt of the earth, blue-collar brother…the kind of Black man whose life doesn’t make the headlines for either shooting hoops or shooting bullets, for breaking out or breaking in,” the Rev. Raphael Warnock writes in this essay adapted from his new memoir.
OH CAPTAIN, MY CAPTAIN
“This boat, where my dad had taught me some of life’s biggest lessons, was my responsibility now. Preserving his boat felt like preserving him.” A love letter from writer Elizabeth Bernstein to her dad, a year after his passing.
A FEW FATHER’S DAY CLASSICS
In honor of Father’s Day, The New Yorker editor David Remnick identified a few of his favorite Personal History columns about dads, and I assure you they’re worth a read: Check out these classics by Michael Chabon, Zadie Smith, and David Sedaris.
A FATHER, CLOAKED IN SECRETS
”My father worked for the ——. His legacy is invisible. He could never talk about his life.” In 16 graphic panels, Sophia Glock reveals a poignant story about writing a memoir and worrying what her father would think.
Black family history—success despite challenges
HEIRLOOMS CARRY FAMILY HISTORY
“For many Black families, kinship bonds have endured through an enlarged definition of the term heirloom that includes everyday items that have come to serve as carriers of tradition and vessels of inheritance.” Explore this photo gallery that weaves “stories of kinship and care across generations.”
LOST AND FOUND
Her family’s story, starting with an African girl on a slave ship, was almost lost—but an old photo with a handwritten annotation on the back led the writer to an elderly aunt who had history to share. Now, “as it is in every generation, it’s up to young people today to preserve what our ancestors and elders gathered.”
MORE THAN A PAPER TRAIL
Handwritten notes in an heirloom Bible became the centerpiece of a search for one Black family’s personal history. This video traces the family’s quest for history—and how the Bible ended up at the Smithsonian.
Miscellaneous storytelling and legacy
MOMENTS OF RECOGNITION
“It’s easy to take for granted the power of sharing a story, especially a personal one.” Readers of a columnist’s personal recollection react with stories of their own lost loved ones, a nod to the power of connection.
COMMUNICATING LOVE
“Knowing that we’re all going to die, what do we want our lives to be about? How do we want to be remembered? And how do we spend whatever time we have left?” A father defines his legacy, recording his stories before he died.
TASTY READS
Last week I wrote about three food memoirs I love that aren’t written by chefs—but that are inspiring examples of using food memories to weave a personal narrative that resonates.
COMPELLING CONVERSATION
San Francisco–based video biographer April Bell talks about vulnerability, the power of story to heal and to affect change, and creating the space to listen in this podcast episode:
...and a few more links
A new neural filter from Adobe Photoshop aims to make photo restoration easier.
Tips for how to preserve memorabilia from a professional organizer
How sculptor Anne Truitt made an art of documenting her life
Lexington, Kentucky, to digitize historical records of enslaved people of the 1700s
Short takes
Life Story Links: December 8, 2020
An array of recent stories on the how sharing our life stories can be transformative (for both the teller and the listener), plus memoir resources & news.
“There is not one big cosmic meaning for all, there is only the meaning we each give to our life, an individual meaning, an individual plot, like an individual novel, a book for each person.”
—Anaïs Nin
Bubble gum kids series of photographs by Cornell Capa for LIFE magazine, January 1947.
The Stories of Our Lives
LETTERS TO THE KIDS
"Somehow we had never really found time to tell stories. Everybody was just busy doing stuff, living our lives." After Bob Brody, a writer in NY, came to this realization, he spent a year writing letters to his grown children “as an act of love and memory…but also as a legacy—a repository of knowledge about the relatives who came before them.”
JUST SAY YES
What are the chances that we’ll all hear—and preserve—our parents’ stories if we don’t ask for them? Yeah, not great. Here are three easy ways to get the family storytelling ball rolling.
“NARRATIVE THERAPY”
Longtime South Carolina–based personal historian Mary Johnston shares how she helps Lowcountry writers transform memories into memoirs during the pandemic.
“TRUTHS THAT MATTER”
“I am haunted by what I don’t know about my father, and long to know, no matter how many pages of declassified documents pertaining to his old night fighter squadron that I’ve been able to obtain,” Paul Hendrickson writes in this meandering but worthwhile piece that’s, ultimately, about two writers and their complicated relationships with their fathers’ pasts.
Write On!
FIND SERENITY THROUGH WRITING
For the past several years Massachusetts–based personal historian Nancy West has led writing groups at which she promotes the value of establishing a daily writing practice. During the pandemic, she compiled her favorite "three-minute journaling" prompts into a book.
DEMENTIA LETTERS PROJECT
Kathryne Fassbender, CDCS, founder of Dementia Letters Project, invites you to write a letter—addressed to “yourself, your family, dementia, to a loved one with dementia, the community, God, anyone, everyone”—sharing your dementia-related story.
The Power of Our Voices
LETTERS TO HER SON
The New York Times calls Homeira Qaderi’s memoir, Dancing in the Mosque, “a stunning reminder that stories and words are what sustain us, even—and perhaps especially—under the most frightening circumstances.”
WOMEN’S VOICES
“This documentary [The Girl Inside] will make you think about the power of your own voice, the healing gift of story-telling, and what message you want your life to speak into the world.”
Miscellany: Food, Photos & Grief
FOLLOWING THE BREADCRUMB TRAIL
“Each bowl of okra soup or snippet of kitchen-table conversation is an ark from the past…” How to apply insights from chefs and culinary historians to cook family recipes that hold special meaning to you, even if the elders who originally made them are gone.
WHEN WE WERE YOUNG
A baby's first sip of stout, picnics beside cars, and braving cold seas: Nostalgic photos showing family life in Britain between the ’40s and ’70s collected in new book.
AMIDST HER GRIEF
“There was no gathering or reception after, no hugs and fellowship with our family and friends, no stories exchanged in anyone’s yard,” memoirist Nicole Chung writes in this poignant piece about the signposts of mourning and honoring our grief.
...and a Few More Links
Older adults remember past events with remarkable accuracy, new study finds.
Forever ambassador Ellen Thompson-Jennings details layouts and resources for making your own family stories book.
One family’s Milanese Jewish recipes that survived generations of secrecy
Winter online writing classes from Creative Nonfiction (including historical narratives and the thirty-minute memoir)
Thoughts from writer Sarah Cannon on writing a hybrid memoir
Interesting thoughts on the idea that memory lies at the heart of various academic disciplines
Short Takes